By: Lindsay Quella Kara and Jeremy Renta
It never ceases to amaze me how little we actually stop. Think about it for a second. We are often taught the precedent that one life accomplishment must be followed by the next. We finish school and then we plan for next year. We leave one job because we have found a better one. We move from one place to another because there is a new opportunity we can’t pass up. We have an always moving, keep-it-going growth orientation. I’m no stranger to this. I moved out of state for my graduate program the day after I graduated from college.
Sometimes we move quickly because we have places to go and people to see. Often though, we move quickly because we are afraid to stop. We are afraid to pause. We are afraid to feel. We are afraid that if we do allow ourselves to feel, what comes up will be too much to handle and that it will irreparably disrupt our lives.
In my experience working with clients, this fear is fierce. I hear so many stories of people who have packed their lives to the brim in order to stow away their hurts, their questions, and their longings.
When they finally slow down, they have an opportunity to heal. As we engage our process, something incredible happens. For the first time in a long time, sometimes for the first time ever, they catch up with themselves. As they process their life story, they begin to understand where they have been, where they are now, and where they are going.
Participating in this process with every beautiful person I meet, is one of the most rewarding parts of my life. As they slow down, they show up. As they show up, they let themselves be seen. As they let themselves be seen, I bear witness, reflecting what I see in them. The safety and space is created and this sets the stage for them to be equipped to return to the place they first left- the place of knowing who they are and where they began.
I have found that setting aside the time and energy to create that space- to unwind, to question, to process, to release, to receive… is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. I hope that you will give yourself this gift. You are worth it.
Lindsay Quella Kara is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Nationally Certified Counselor.
Lindsay is co-owner of the integrative healing practice Voice Hands Heart.
Lindsay offers personal coaching sessions to individuals of all ages and backgrounds in Boulder, CO.
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